Fathers Day 2023

Aaron wants to wish everyone out there a Happy Father's Day. Yeah. Every Father's Day. Why are you all taking it back by that time? You're like, wait, what I do. Why don't you? Why am I alone in this? Because you still have a physical father available to say happy father as they do. 

You can say to other father dudes to other father dudes like Andy and every father. Andy. What's Andy? Yes. All of you, Andy is out there. So here's a funny thing. 

I don't know if you ever got this. I probably didn't. Has your mother ever given you a Happy Father's Day card? Oh, ok. I've gotten that for my mother. I've been told a happy future Father's Day by my nephews like, oh I think I've said that to you too before. Yeah. Yeah. Don't act nervous. I'm scared now. But yeah, so I've gotten Happy Father's Day cards for my mother. That was weird. Why is it, is it just for fun or did she actually think you're having a kid for a second? No, no. She didn't think I was having a kid. 

She was just like, ha ha. Funny. No. She's of the, get me a kid. Dang it. Oh, no, I've had that. 

We've had that conversation a few times. Um, it's still not happening. Uh, if you wanna know why, listen to the last two weeks of May, the, the podcast episode titles, a very personal conversation, you'll understand why. Then you still could, it's just a different way about going about things. Like I, I didn't, I wouldn't put, you know, if, if it ever became feasible to adopt or something like that, you know. 

Um, but it's a lot harder to do that when you're, uh, single parent. Oh. Oh. But you can work from, yeah. But still you'd have, you'd have to take, I have to take time off to, you know, take them to their stuff and kids can be busy, especially as they get older. Like middle school, high school before they can drive. Yes. It's, it's all part of being a parent. I know. So I guess I'm a little selfish with my time still. 

But, yeah, at least you can admit it, but I can, I can admit it. I can admit it. Um, but anyways, yeah. So I, I got happy father say parents present and cards from my mother. Uh, she was of the mindset that even in, and this started back, like, in my teenage years. Whoa. Uh, she's of the mindset that you start preparing to be a father even when you're a teenager. And I get the, the concept of that. But at the same time, I was like, there's a way to prepare to be a father and giving me a father's day. Thing is weird. Like, I remember, I remember one year as a gift, I got a book on how to be a great father. And I was like, nice. 

I was like, interesting. I was like, this is geared towards guys who already are married and have kids. I'm 17. I haven't either. But, but when you get there though, you know. Yeah, you can read this for that. So, I was just curious if you had ever gotten anything like that from your mother or your dad? 

No, I, I wanna say it was my sister but I got a book. The Kiss Dating Goodbye book once. Oh, that book? I never read that surprise, surprise. You know, that guy who wrote that book, he denounced his entire book. He's left Christianity basically. Yeah. I ain't reading that book. 

No, I wouldn't read it either. Um, based on the reviews I've heard of it and some of the synopsis I've read of it is like, this is weird. Yeah. So weirder than Baum. Uh. Oh. Oh, yeah. Oh, ok. Yeah. Weirder than baum. Weird. I really don't want to read it, but it's along the same lines as baum. Yeah. Instead of dating, it's courtship essentially. What's the big difference? What? Oh, what's the difference between dating and courtship? 

You, you don't, you don't know this, I mean, I guess, is courtship is just more dialed to, like, we're getting married sort of thing basically. Um, in essence, yeah, like dating, you know, you could be like, oh, we're gonna go to date, blah, blah, blah. We're, we're, uh, we're done. Right. Courting is more formal. 

Uh, it's the way they define it. I'm just gonna read their, their definition here because it makes, I know what it is, but it's hard to explain it sometimes. But it's a formal agreement to get to know a potential spouse. It's a traditional arrangement that's typically between a man and woman during courtship. 

The two people focus on getting to know one another going on dates and romantic adventures. At the end of the courtship, the goal is usually to get engaged and then get married as long as everything goes. Well, um many religions prefer courting rather than dating since it almost always ends in marriage. Whereas dating, you know, you can go on dates and be like, yeah, we're done. Courting involves a lot of family involvement between both families. There's a lot of commitment between the two people, emotional attachments. 

That's so weird because it literally in my mind, that's just what dating is. And yeah, but I think probably because growing up with that Christian mindset and frame set there, it, it, it's a lot of that is filtered into it, you know, into the idea of dating. Whereas if you ask that of, let's say, not gonna name names but certain one of your peers, I'm not, I'm, I'm not, I'm not picking a specific one. I'm just, I'm just saying right now, pick maybe some of your peers that really didn't grow up in the church in that and where they see dating as, you know, it, they do it while it's convenient and then wouldn't, if you were to do the whole courtship thing and it doesn't work out. Wouldn't that just be like breaking up from someone that you were dating sometimes? Yeah. But a lot of, uh, also a lot of courtships. 

They're a year or less until you're engaged. Now, some people who date will do that too. And I've known people who dated for like three months and all of a sudden boom, pop, pop the question. 

Like, wait, hold on. Yeah. Like, wait a minute. Is this a shotgun wedding? Hey. Yeah, brother, y y you'll understand if you listen to a different episode. Oh, my goodness. I'm making up for lost time. Can't wait. Your dad hears this one? I, I can. Hi, Mr Johnson. Are you proud of your son? No. Um, give him more Charles Spurgeon quotes. 

All he needs them. There's one on the table I saw, oh, you did? Yeah, I didn't read it but I saw, because I saw the Spurgeon face. I was like, oh, it's a Spurgeon verse in here. Yes. Oh, my gosh. That's funny. Um, yeah. Gosh, this is all me asking if you ever got Father's Day gifts? 

No, I haven't thankfully because, hey, I haven't. Yeah. So I'm still, you know, no, why we gotta have different names for basically the same thing. 

I don't like it as far as courtship and dating. Like does one not date to get married in normal life. No, a lot of times they don't, why they'll, they'll date to have fun date to have someone in their life that's just around. That's why you have people who will date for 17, 18, 19 years. 

There's a judge, I forget. It's, it's one of those New England states and, uh, he's pretty famous because he's pretty, he's pretty lenient on people. Like, if they have a good reason, he'll find a way to, um, you know, get them out or if there's a hardship where they can't pay the fine. You know, he actually has a special setup fund where people mail in money to pay fines for people who are in hardship in that. Oh, so I was watching one of his videos one time and he's like, and who's driving the car? He's, and the woman, you know, says the guy's name and he goes well, and who is she to you? Or who is he to you? 

She goes my boyfriend of 17 years. So, no, they don't. I had to get married all the time. They're just looking for dating and now, and now that's not even dating anymore, that's just friends with benefits, sort of thing. Well, ok. And you beat me to the punch here and now, and nowadays in current culture, yeah, you, it's becoming a lot more common and, yeah, it's a lot more common. 

I'll leave it at that for it to be a polyamory thing. Did I just blow your brain out with words? Yeah. What does poly mean? Uh m, why don't you just say multi? What does Amy mean? Emma, what Amy? Amy was it people? No. Oh, dang. I have no idea. Like love a, you know, Italian love. 

So, man, I didn't even sound the same a, a, yeah, you love if you say it like that. It does. You didn't say it like that before. Um So polyamory is becoming more multiple loves, sort of thing. Yeah. So, so like four or 56 people in a relationship together. Yeah. So they're all Mormon dating. 

I was the Mormon friends with benefits. Oh, my goodness. Yeah. But it's non religious. Yeah. Uh, there was a thing, a thread yesterday. So there's a Twitter account essentially that takes these crazy Twitter posts and, or Reddit posts and puts them on Twitter and it's like, ok, follow the, the crazy here if you can. 

A woman, the trends changed genders to a man was upset because her husband called her a girl. So she got locked out of her room. She talked to her girlfriend, which is her friend's wife and then she talked to him so, her friend's, her girlfriend's husband to go talk to her husband about calling him her a, uh, yeah, her a, I think I got that. Wow, that's, and they're all dating each other in quotes. I, I put those in quotes for those who aren't audio only they're dating. All right. So slinging, yeah. Trying to do that whole like thing and I was just like, oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, I was like, no, no, there was other stuff in there too that just kind of was crazy. But yeah, that was, no, that was just leave it at. That sounds lovely. But that's becoming more of a norm thing. Yeah. I'm, I'm seeing more and more of it on social media which if you're starting to see it on social media then that means it's been happening and brewing but it's been out there. Yep. You're starting to see shorts or tiktok videos come about saying how it's normal to be in love with four or 56 people at the time. 

I'm like, no, well, I mean, probably is now in current societal culture. Yeah, I is it right? No, of course not. But they're gonna say it is. So that, that's what makes you feel good. So when you, when you go, well, but when you, so when you ask the question of, well, don't people just normally date to get married. 

My answer is emphatically. No. If we look at current culture, if we look at the Christian culture, that's probably more so true. And unfortunately I think there's a little bit of toxicity on the Christian culture side too. But that's a whole other conversation on that one because some guys and I, I, I'm speaking about guys I knew in college, like, they would start dating and then they're like, well, they're like, I can't control myself. 

Let's get married so I can have sex essentially. That's, yeah, some of those marriages didn't end up so. Well. No, I can imagine that. So, the, there, there, there's both sides to that coin there. Um, but yeah, to answer your question of, well, don't they just date just to get married? No, not necessarily. They just wanna have fun to have fun. Exactly. There's not even dating anymore. 

Just call it what it is. What is it being stupid? Being stupid? Ok. I just fooling around. But that's not what the point of today was that just happened to be the side conversation. Happy Father's Day because I, because I asked, I was like, did you ever get Father's Day card? No. Which is really weird. Still to me to this day. 

Thankfully I don't get them anymore because I told my mom how weird it was. Why is it weird? I, did she ever ask her that or no? Did she ever ask you that? Why? Why it's weird. Yeah. I told her I was just, like, it's weird. It's just weird. It's like, I'm not a father unless I actually have a kid. 

I'm like, don't do this. I'm like, I'm not a husband. I, no, it's weird. It'd be one thing if I was expecting a kid, you know. Yeah. That's one thing when there's no potential at all for a kid to be, even be in the mix. Happy Father's Day. Yeah. That's a completely other thing. No. Uh, maybe I'll tell your mother to get you a Happy Father's Day card this year. 

No, I don't want it. Why not? I don't, I don't, man, I wanna flip flop on that thought for so long it's not gonna be worth flip flopping on anymore. Why are you gonna flip flop on it? Huh? Why you gonna flip flop on it? 

I mean, I can't believe I'm saying this but there's time to like, you could be kind of cool to have a family but then not too much longer or later. Like, yeah, so it's that flip flopping? What was that for? At the end? I've just been hearing a lot of, um, uh, uh, what the A T FA T F being accused of flip flopping. So now when I hear the word flip flop, I think of the A T F I got you. I'm like, what's going on? Ok. But, uh, yeah, 100% random. No. Ok. Yeah. Take this as it will. Oh, no. Why? Oh, no. Uh, why take, what is it will? Well, why are you going? Oh, no, no. What are you about to say? Why are you afraid of that? I'm terrified. I'm always scared. Why? Because I hate things. I don't know. You hate things? Yeah. You hate when people tell you something. It depends on what it is. All right. We already know that. Yeah, I know. Go forward and have kids. 

No, I knew I was gonna go there. No, you, you, you, I think, I think based on knowing you this long, based on your personality, very dangerous, you're gonna be the fun father. It's dangerous. If bad combination. Why? Bad combination, huh? I'm gonna be, oh, it'd be terrible. 

It'd be so bad. Oh, that kids could be horrible. Yeah. But I think restrained and in control he now works at the appropriate times. I think it'd be a good thing. Oh. Right. Did that ever happen? Sure. Yeah. Yeah. I'm just telling you from my perspective, from what I see. 

You'd be like the father that you see in the videos once in a while where it's like where it's like, um, the mother, it's, it's was captain, like mom all day at home trying to keep her kids calm. Then dad rounds them up. Right. And it shows like the dad doing a back flip onto like a bed and then all the kids doing the same thing, but it's not like, just like standing on the bed and doing a back flip. He's like standing on a ledge on, like off the wall and then doing it and then the kids fall suit. See that, that'd be you. 

This is how, this is, how there's gonna be a lot of hospital visits. Think of all the, have the good insurance. Well, better get a heck of a job pits once you're in your thirties, I've seen a lot of posts about that too. It's like, it's like there was one I saw today is uh metal heads. Once they hit their thirties as this guy, he's in the very front and he's taking a nap on the stage while the set's going on, like his head's on the, on the stage and he's sleeping while the sets blaring right in front of him and the mosh pits like two people deep behind, right behind him. It's like me in the, I hope that never happens to me, but good. What are you talking about? You already sit back by the music? Wait, what, by the soundboard? 

Well, not for a B R concerts. Not all of them. If I'm ever with Peter, I'm always in the front. Right. No, I shouldn't. There's been times he's been alone in the front but I don't wanna be in the front. But, yeah. All right. Yeah. So now that I've told Aaron that I think he'd be a good dad to, you know, first he has to find a wife or wife. 

Well, that is, and, and like I, like I joked with you, you know, if you get married and you have kids then that means Josh and Amy don't have to have eight kids. You, you can have four and they can have four. Nope. Nope. I ain't helping him out on that number. 

Ah, anyways, Father's Day. Happy Father's Day. No way. No, Josh, you're not a father yet. Never mind. Or are you? Have you not told us yet? 

Oh, that's why it never hangs out with this. So, I have some trivia for you. What about Father's Father's Day? Trivia? Yeah. What am I supposed to know about fathers? According to the US Census Bureau, what is the most popular of all Father's Day gifts? The most popular Father's Day gift? Think what is a stereotypical Father's Day gift? Jim beer? No, no, Father's Day gift. 

I remember getting this from my dad. Even when I was young. Well, me getting it a came, my mom bought it and said here this is from your, from your dad. No. Um, are cards even gifts? 

They, they're attached, they're part of, they're gift adjacent. Yeah, unless the gift is in the card, but then the card's still not the gift. It's still gift adjacent. Yeah. So you've guessed card? You've guessed beer. What's your third guess? Mm. Home Depot gift cards. No, the necktie. A necktie clothes is the most popular of all father's day games. Yep. And this is an article from last year. Sounds lame. There are 1.5 billion fathers worldwide. How many are in the United States? 

I'd say, I don't know. 175 million. Nope, 66.3 million are in the United States. Yes, I probably shouldn't try and take the United States population and divide it the two. No, because there's elderly singles and all that in there. But elderlies can be then they could be, but, or their Children could be dead and they were no longer dads. But they were a dad. 

Father's day is the blank largest card sending occasion in America with almost 100 million Father's Day cards sent each year is the blank largest. So, is it, you know what, what rank is it? Third. Nope. Second. Nope. It is the 5th, 5th largest card sending occasion sending almost 100 million Father's Day cards each year. Yep. It's mother's day first. It doesn't say, oh, only 50% of father's day cards are purchased for dads. 

Nearly 15% of father's day cards are purchased for husbands. Oh, other categories include grandfathers, sons, brothers and what? Sons, brothers, grandfathers, grandfathers, not husbands. Nope, because I already said that 50% of her husbands go. Yes. Yeah. Gosh. Dang it. So based on that. Right. What we just learned, 35% of all cards are for grandfathers, sons, brothers and uncles that are not fathers. So there are, I'm one of the 35%. 

Oh, see, it is more common than you think, apparently. And then I thought, gosh, so father's Day cards, right. With them sending 100 million Father's Day cards each year. How much is that in money? Uh, what million 100 they send about 100 million cards? Mean? Was it like six bucks a card? 

Seven, depending on the, you tell me that many cards. I mean, I'm ok. I'm gonna go with about eight bucks the card. Ok. So what I make it just 800 some million dollars. You're close. 780 million. Dang. So you're really close. Wow. What do you know? All right, according to National Geographic Father's Day costs blink, then mother's Day more or less than Mother's Day, correct? Yeah, dude. Individual consumers spend on average 94 54 for Father's Day and 100 and 38 36 for Mother's Day. Wow. Yep. This isn't a trivia. 

This is just facts. This is just a, a famous quote said by Mark Twain. You know who Mark Twain is, right? Oh, I know that name. Who is he writer, dude? Ok. I'll take it. He's an author. Famously. Mark Twain said the following about his father when I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant. 

I could hardly stand to have the old man around, but I, when I got to 21 I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years. What do you wanna repeat that? When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant. I could hardly have, I could hardly stand to have him around. But when I got to be 21 I was astonished at how much he could learn in seven years. It's a long time to learn some things. Yeah. But do you get what that quotes saying when he was 14? 

He thought he knew it all and that his dad was stupid and ignorant. And then when he got to 21 he's like, wow, my dad is wise and knows a lot. Well, oh, I, I imagine he, his dad gets smarter. Yeah, he gets smarter because it's the relative of being a teenager to an adult and learning the difference. See, I would like that if it were written that how, how much he's come to realize on how smart his dad was by the time he turned 21 uh, how much smarter his dad has gotten as he turned 21? Ok. What picky. What year did Father's Day become an official US holiday? 

The birth of America. No. Um, gosh, seventies. Anything more specific about some of these, or just 19 seventies, 1972. Really? Yeah, Richard Nixon made it a holiday. How am I, how am I doing that? 

The idea of father's day was conceived by Sonora Smart dad who wanted a special day to honor her father, her father, William Smart, a widowed civil war veteran left to raise six Children on his own. Wow. Yeah, that deserves father's day. Yeah. Wow. So, just a little basic trivia at that level. 

Now, here's this one, this one's a little more depressing a question. Great. Yeah. Where I love to go in the US at a national level. Blank million Children are living without their biological father. 

Why you can make me guess the number 21 18.4. Holy crap. I was luck. But, oh man. So at a national level, 18.4 million Children are living without their biological father. OK. It is interesting if you look at the, the graph here or this ST I have here about parents who li or Children who live with either both or just one, their parents, right. So Hispanic Children, the amount that lived with both parents, 67% live with mother. 

Only 24.9, live with father only. What do you think less? Really? Yeah. What do you think it is? Yes. Give me numbers, sir. I don't know. I don't remember what the first one was. Uh the 13% 4% 4%. 

Yeah, 4% and lived with neither parent. 4.2. Dang. In the Asian community. Those who live with both parents, 86.6% to live with the mother only. 

Now remember Hispanic was at 24.9. This is at 8.5. Of course, the both parents is already up at 86. So that's quite higher already, right? So 8% mother only 2.2% father only 2.4% neither parent. Ok. In the white category, live with both parents. 74.6%. Second highest, lived with mother, only 17.4% lived with father, only 4.4%. 

Second highest, lived with neither parent. 3.6%. Third highest or second lowest if you wanna say. And then the final category, African American live with both parents. Are you? Ok. Yeah. What are you doing? 

I'm just bracing for this to not be a good number. 39.7% with both parents live with mother only. You want to guess what? This number is higher than that take a guess. Uh, 47%. You're really close actually 48.1%. Ok. Lived with father only. 

It's the highest percentage of the four on the table at 5%. Lived with neither parent again. The highest of all on the table. 7.1%. Ok, man, that's still crazy. How, how low that is. 

Overall dads are just scary, I guess dads are scary. Apparently not many people want to live with them. Well, no, that's not. It's um, no, it's the courts. Yeah, it's the courts that do that. Yeah, or the deads running off. Uh Yeah, probably not as high but still another vari variable man. So this is from, but I think it's uh it's from a report called Fathering Strong, the real epidemic. 

So, you know, they have a bunch of charts, a bunch of data in there. That's one of the pieces of data that they have in there. Um And they have a whole book that they wrote it from the Urban Light Ministries is who created this report. So if you're like, who wrote this? Oh, yeah, they also wrote a book called Father Love and you know, basically going over this whole thing of like, hey, this is why parents are important on all this. Um Why are, why is it important do you think? And I think, I, I know we talked a little bit about this in a previous conversation back in May but figure bring it up for Father's Day as well. Why it's important as well? What are some of the positive impacts they saw when a father was present? And they said that what they did was they released um a, a study where they found eight areas, areas in particular where a child's life improved due to having a father in their lives. Do you know what any of those are? It was like, this was like discipline one. How so disciplined? Hm. What do you mean by discipline? Hm. It should be. Yeah, of course I am. Is that a hint? No? Oh. So what do I mean by this? What do you mean by this and get going? Um, how do I, I guess how do I word that one? Of course though. But, uh, it's like, I don't know, dad was always the one, like, kind of pushing you to do stuff more. So I always just felt bad if I made mom upset because I made mom upset. And that's a big no, no. And that's where dad comes in and he's like, all right, you better get to doing what you gotta do, boy. So doing the right thing, laying down and going and doing stuff. Ok? I that, that could make me feel, contribute to some of this but some of these things. So what they say is this better able to control their emotions, better physical health, healthier relationships, feel safe and confident, less likely to use drugs and alcohol. Really? That's a shocker. Perform better in school now under what the less likely to use drugs and alcohol as a shocker. Yeah. Yeah. And, and they, so they say that like less likely to use but then they put in the explanation of that. 

It's more like abuse drugs and alcohol not just use, ok. This one, this one, this next one I know you've heard before. Less likely to be poor when a father's present Children are four times less likely to live in poverty. That's crazy. I know Crowder has said that many times on his show. 

The number one indicator of a person is going to live in poverty or not, is if they had a father or not in their homes or not, what's considered poverty, like homeless. No, there, there's more just like food stamps sort of thing. No, there's actual poverty line, like, financially. Yeah. Where you basically, you can't, you don't have enough money to have a roof over your head and get basic necessities. Hm. That's would be poverty and the last one more likely to stay out of trouble. Hm. Effects of father absence on Children. 

Now, this is what I thought was interesting. Right. So I'm gonna go from bottom up poor educational outcomes. 

The duration of a father's absence has been proven to be a factor in children's educational success. The lowest achievement and highest risk of school failure were from adolescents without resi resident father figures. In other words, they didn't have a father at home. They're more likely to fail out. They're more likely to have issues at school and not do well. Grade wise. That's weird. Why is it weird? 

I didn't do well. Grade wise. You, but you probably did at least CS pulled off CS, at least, I mean, average. Yeah, when we're talking had DS, we're talking in this, we're talking, like, constantly getting ups, like, like as a final grade or yes, like just Fs across the board that that's why they said highest academic failure, school failure. In other words, they just flunk out because they're not doing anything. Next. One earlier, sexual activity studies link earlier and riskier sexual behavior to father absence. 

Adolescents from father absent homes were 3.5 times more likely to experience pregnancy than adolescents from father present homes. Wow. Oh, wow. Just uh increased chance of, yeah, having a kid that young, yep, higher rate of crime, father absence has been closely linked to criminal activity for young men and was a predictor for high rates of youth assault. Also a poor quality relationship has an impact on delinquency, greater chance of substance abuse. The quality of father's involvement has a direct correlation to early substance abuse regardless of gender, an absent father, an absent father, Children with abusive fathers or those that abuse drugs are at a much higher risk. So having an abusive father is gonna cause the abuse of drugs increase the use of fathers now. 

Well, that's gonna be interesting to see where I guess that line changes. Why do you say the line changes as to what's considered abuse? I'm guessing based on cultural context, you're talking along the lines of like things like misgender and all that be being considered abuse and that eventually. Yeah. Ok. Yeah. Pretty much. The last thing that talks about the effects of father absence on Children, higher rate of depression and suicide. 

The quality of a father's involvement is associated with higher levels of behavioral problems. Research found that Children with stable father figures have better cognitive and socio emotional outcomes. Hm. Why do you seem like? Hm. Does that ever go, like for these studies, does it ever go into the aspect of, is it literally just having a father in the house or does it have anything to do with the relationship you have with the father? 

That's why some of those set in there, like, when it, when it singles out, like, abuse. Yeah. Abuse or poor quality relationship. Right. That's definitely gonna make the, uh, outcome worse. Yeah. But you don't have to have, yeah, I guess an abusive father. 

No, you could have an absent father. A father that doesn't care. It doesn't necessarily have to be abusive. I wouldn't even say, doesn't care. I'm not like, I'm just thinking of, think there's a couple examples out there where it's, it's like you don't really get, they don't really know their dad during the years of growing up too much because they're always, they've always been busy working to make money to keep going. Right. That doesn't mean that they were necessarily a bad father. 

They were trying to do something. No. And that's what I'm saying. They're not a bad father. So I'm saying like, but for that relationship that they have with their dad there isn't really much there. It might always gone working. Yeah. It might be, uh, a semi bad relationship just because of lack of quality time. But it isn't. But the time that they do have is good, it's just not able to do much because dad's trying to put food on the table and when they're younger and as a teen they may not see that correlation. But then when they get older, just like the quote, you know, when I was 14, my dad was an idiot. Essentially. In 21 he got lies, you know, when they get older they'll probably look it back and be like, well, he was doing what he had to do and, and that's how he was showing his love towards us. Right. I also, hm, I don't know why this just came to mind, but this would be, uh, this would have been more of a mother's thing than father's thing. Yeah. What's that is the whole, like one now, obviously you, you have to take care of care of a baby. One is born. Yeah. But, uh, it made me wonder, like, how, at what point does it, I guess start to really have an impact of, like, what you do to teach your child as you raise it. 

Like, at what age do things really start to actually kind of matter in a sense, you know, what we need to read some research papers on that. But that was just, I, I had that thought the other day because I was like, I don't remember anything until like my fourth birthday. And even though, especially at this point, I hardly remember anything until, I don't know when I get a couple of weeks ago, you're too young for that. Well, we're old, young folk these days. Oh, jeez. But, yeah, that was one thing else. I, yeah, I also kind of wondered, I was just like, hm, at what point in a kid's life does how you raise them? 

Really have an impact on them. Hm. I'm obviously not giving people free rein to do whatever the heck they want in those years. Yeah. But like being like an absent father that adds a per, you know, that starts pretty real quickly. It's not necessarily a direct impact on the kid. 

It's just the overall impact again, one of the things it said, well, not only developmental but it said, you know, if there's a father in the home, the child is four times less likely to be in poverty. That's wild. Now, I'm gonna ask you this, I'm gonna read the paragraph and then I'm going you to guess the number. Oh, jeez. In 2008, a study, the first of its kind provided insight into the estimated cost of taxpayers due to the father absence. It's estimated the annual expenditure is made by the US federal government to support father absent homes. 

The total expenditures added up to a startling blink billion five billion. That would be startling. What that, that is the fact that. It's startling. The five billion would be eye opening. Not startling, but to be in the billions. That's not startling enough. Nope, where this is at? It's startling. Was 35 nope, 75. Nope, more. Yep, 99.8 billion dollars 1,002,008. So, can you imagine how much it's gone up since he? 

Yeah, a ton, the 99.8 billion is a conservative estimate and leaves out three significant cost. One federal benefit programs improve whole communities and individuals regardless of income. Two indirect costs relate to the poor outcomes of Children of single mother families such as greater use of mental and physical health services and a higher rate of involvement in the juvenile justice system. Three long term costs and reduced tax income due to the lower earnings of Children of single parent families and long term costs due to the higher incarceration of Children of single parent families. In 2010, President Obama signed the Claims Resolution Act which provided 100 and 50 million per year in grants to promote healthy marriages and responsible fatherhood. That's good. That's important. Yeah, fathers are important and there's more in this document that I can link to this document um in here because they actually go through like a responsible document and they link to all the sources where they got the data from. That's good. It's good. That can be done every now and then. So that way it's not like, oh, what is this? It's, oh, yeah. That's right. That's what it is. 

So, I'm actually going to go ahead and put that in research links. It is pretty incredible though. I mean, gosh, I haven't been through anything yet. I can't imagine what it, how much work and stress it must be as a dad. If I can't wait till you have that first couple of years under your belt of that. 

I'll just kind of sit back in the corner and laugh. I can wait. I know somehow I get, I'll wait until I can't anymore. Somehow get pressured into watching yours and Josh's kids on the same night or something. So you took pay back. So you and Josh can go on a double date with your wives. 

I didn't say a date because that'd be just you and Josh. Yeah. No, dang it. Do they have to come along? You too. You too. Can let them have a wives night out and you too can have guys' night and then I will pay a babysitter to watch her kids and that you guys and the guys night. 

Unless we can review this person, it'll be my mother. No, go, they'll all sit down and watch Lindell. Well, I mean, for how long it's gonna be until that day ever happens. It'll be robot Lindell then with robot Trump it would be the, the Chinese clone. No, it'll be the A I versions of them. 

Uh, just as bad. There's already like voice A I youtube channels out there that has Trump Obama and Biden playing video games with each other yelling at each other while playing Minecraft mostly. Oh my God. And then once in a while while someone like Andrew Tate will join them. That's all voice. A, I, I might have to watch this. 

That sounds mildly entertaining. Yeah, there's only one problem with it. The Joe Biden one sounds too coherent. Well, that's no fun. But yeah, I just wonder since it's Father's Day, bring up a few things of why. 

How important I know we miss Mother's Day. So pretty moms happy belated Mother's Day. Karen didn't remind me. That's why. Yeah. So we miss Mother's Day. So, uh, we'll make sure to make next year's mother's Day a double long special. But I did get my mom a card. You got her a card? But did you get her a gift? 

I am her gift. Can she take it back for a refund? Nope. Not in those times. You couldn't. Now we're gonna do something special. But what are you gonna do? Take it on the back of your motorcycle? Yeah. Yeah. But I gotta get that little back rest first. Then we'll take a ride on the motorcycle. No. What are you gonna do for your mother? Yeah. It's always so hard. 

It's so difficult to decide with that one. Why? Because you just never know what she wants because there's nothing that she wants. She wants a clean basement. 

She told me, no, she did not stop it. No, she didn't. I'm just trying to figure out a way to bring it up. Now I can. No, no, no. Now she wants a clean basement that she can walk through without fear of tripping over things. 

No, it's, you have to work on the, the agility stuff. You know, your mother's gonna be like Biden falling over. She's old. She's not that old, but at least she's your mother and she has an excuse and she's ok if she has issues. Walking, Biden is supposed to be the leader of the free country. And you saw what happened this week where he fell, he fell on stage and, like, you could see the bomb soles of his shoes and that when he fell. 

Oh, yeah, that happened. I got to watch this later. Oh, no. Yeah. Yeah, I wonder how, hm. It was at the US Air Force Academy commencement. Yeah. I'm really curious now that we mentioned this on Hunters in Biden's relations. 

Someone put up a website. Oh, no. On Friday with all of the photos and videos from Hunter Biden's laptop. Oh, no. And they put on their recommendation if you don't want to see pornographic stuff, do not go here. So I have not gone to the site yet because, yeah. No. No, because it's everything from his laptop. Everything. Yeah. So, when you say when you, when you said that as I was like, oh, yeah. 

Um, about, about Hunter. Yeah, I'm sure that's not gonna, you know, bode well for that relationship. Yeah. There, there was a whole bunch of stuff that was crazy with Hunter there besides the drug use and the prostitutes and, you know, all that and then basically no other way to say it. Um, going after his sister-in-law after his brother and I did, I was like, seriously, dude, that's a little crass, you know, give it a little time. No, dude, it's like in the moment here and now it's like someone we were talking to on Wednesday and they said, yeah, this person had kid, one and their cousins and siblings at the same time. I could have been the Hunter Biden, kids, cousins and siblings and aunts and uncles all at the same time. 

All enjoying Parmesan cheese. Well, on that. Hopefully, hopefully in a different way than Hunter on that. Happy, happy. No. Don't, don't be that dad happy Father's Day because you know, I, I don't know what else to do with that one. Really? I don't, I really don't. 

Other than let's see what the audio of this sounds like. Maybe see you haven't seen follow. Oh I thought this was just clapping. That was clapping and then him falling. That was that, that was that, you know, let me go back to it again. That little Yeah. Oh, no. Yeah, he kind of fell. 

Yeah, my volume is at 100%. Everything's at 100%. It's just, it's just a quite med view. But listen real quick. That's it. Awesome. Yeah, he did. Yeah, he felt like multiple. It was like, do, do, do, he was taking a step basically off a little podium. Yeah, he is. Yeah, he went down and that's when he was out to give diplomas and when he did that. So, and if you look at it like all the military personnel that are sitting there, like, behind the, you like a little wall divide. They're all like laughing and they're on care and they're smiling and laughing and chuckling. Yeah, it's in, yeah, it's not a good look. So. Yeah, I guess so. And Happy Father's Day on that because, wow, that was if you've stuck around and been a good father, Happy Father's Day. If you think Aaron's mom should get him a Father's Day card. Leave a, like in a comment of Happy Father's Day, Aaron. No, no, no, I wanna tell your mother to do that. No, I don't.